Saturday, May 19, 2012

Should We Avoid Guys?

So...should we avoid guys? I was talking with a friend in her mid-twenties, and she was giving me advice for college. She said that I should not be friends with guys, but that I should politely avoid them. That idea sounded silly to me, but many girls think that way or are taught that way. Then I realized that she hadn't had any brothers, and she really didn't understand guys very well. I have three brothers and no sisters, so I typically connect with guys better than I do with girls. If girls aren't used to guys, they sometimes develop a victim's mindset toward guys, thinking that every guy wants to be friends to get something from them.

1 Timothy 5:1-2 (ESV):

1 Do not rebuke an older man but encourage him as you would a father, younger men as brothers,
2 older women as mothers, younger women as sisters, in all purity.

Those verses are talking about believers relationships with each other.
Obviously, if we're treating the young men like brothers, we aren't ignoring them (unless you ignore your brothers, which is a bad idea:). Ignoring guys just because they're guys is prejudice, selfish, and silly. But forming relationships with guys is just like any other relationship: you must be careful. There are some creepy guys out there that you shouldn't be hanging out with, and if any guy gets more serious about you than you want him to, you should make it clear to him that you just want to be friends, and if he pushes it, avoid him.

2 Corinthians 6:14 (ESV):

14 Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what partnership has righteousness with lawlessness? Or what fellowship has light with darkness?

This verse is often used for marriage, but it applies to every relationship. Don't make unspiritual people your best friends or mentors, and it's best not to spend too much time with guys who aren't believers. But, in general, enjoy the guys; they liven up our world and make it more fun to live in! Avoiding them makes you appear snobbish and stuck-up. Enjoy friendships, but be careful to avoid crushes on and emotional games with your guy friends. Wait for your special man.

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