Proverbs 9:13-18 (ESV)
"13 The woman Folly is loud; she is seductive and knows nothing.
14 She sits at the door of her house; she takes a seat on the highest places of the town,
15 calling to those who pass by, who are going straight on their way,
16 "Whoever is simple, let him turn in here!" And to him who lacks sense she says,
17 "Stolen water is sweet, and bread eaten in secret is pleasant."
18 But he does not know that the dead are there, that her guests are in the depths of Sheol."
This passage characterizes folly, but as I was reading it I thought, "Wow, that sounds like a lot of girls I know!" Since this passage is describing folly, we should obviously strive to be the opposite of the description given. Are you loud? Some personalities are louder than others, and that's okay, but are you obnoxiously loud? Loud, in this passage, means boisterous, unwomanly, and lacking the gentle and quiet spirit which is so precious in God's sight (1 Peter 3:4). Folly throws herself into the most prominent places, making sure her foolishness is heard loud and clear. She is seductive, or flirtatious, defrauding men with her actions and attitudes. The men she attracts are foolish also; they lack sense! If you behave like Folly behaves, you will only attract foolish men. If you behave in a gentle, sweet, and womanly manner, you will attract godly men who will be good spiritual leaders for you. Of course, you can still have and exhibit your own unique personality, but don't flaunt yourself or behave in an ungodly manner.